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I am an ungrateful turd.
I felt like an ungrateful little turd recently as I sat down to write a letter. We decided to sponsor a child in Gunchire, Ethiopia and her name is Fesesu Hailu. Fesesu is 10 years old and this sweet...
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I Can’t Mom Today
Dear Children- Sorry boys, I know I’m a crappy person, but I can’t mom today. I simply can’t do it. Maybe it’s the PMS, maybe it’s the phase of the moon, maybe it’s that we are only halfway through...
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Don’t Touch My Stuff!
Let’s take a minute or two to talk about something that we all [kind of/sort of] dread but don’t talk about: The Transition Home. I know. I know. We never ever think about our oilfield men coming home...
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Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
As an adult there are many decisions in life. Too many. How do you know what’s right? As a kid everything is so black and white, but as an adult decision making can be SO HARD. Sometimes there is no...
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Having Him Home
What would it look like if Oilman was home more or all the time? We still have no idea what will happen in the next few months. He could get laid off, have a schedule change, or just keep working...
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Cooking for the Masses
Cooking and baking happens to be one of my favorite hobbies. Sure, it isn’t the best hobby for my waistline, but it has a way of calming me. I always try to pass my dishes along to neighbors, friends,...
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Things I’ve Learned Since My Husband Took a Job 4,000 Miles Away
I can’t believe it’s already been a year since my husband accepted his job working 4,000 miles away in Alaska. In this past year, our oldest started and finished kindergarten, we put our house on the...
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How to Love an Oilfield Wife
My Oilfield Man and I just celebrated our 5-year wedding anniversary! Five years! That seems so crazy to me! Didn’t we just get engaged last week? What a crazy 5 years it has been, indeed! It’s got me...
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Don’t Resent Me For Not Needing You
One of the biggest issues in oilfield marriages (or at least in mine) is the continual adapting. The back and forth between single parent/dual parent, single parent/dual parent. It’s a huge cycle of...
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How did I get here?
Do you ever stop and look around and think, “How on earth did I get here?” I am in my mid-thirties and living in Alaska! How did this happen!? I still feel like a 19-year-old just starting out in the...
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Boy, You Done Pissed Off an Oilfield Wife
Mr. Tankersley, I regret to inform you that you, unfortunately, have infuriated an Oilfield Wife. You’ve happened to catch me on a bad day, and I happen to have an outlet. The keyboard is blaring fire...
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Oilfield Wife Guilt
We all know that the supposed secret to survival and sanity in this crazy oilfield life is to stay busy while our oilfield man is away. But what am I supposed to do with this guilt that I feel because...
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Uncertainty
We’re at a crossroads. We could be nearing the end of our oilfield journey, and we’ve got some major decisions to make. I find myself feeling the exact same way at the end as I felt in the...
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11 Facts about Oilfield Wives
1. Oilfield wives are the most capable women you will ever meet. They know how to fix the sink, mow the lawn, dig out a splinter, change a flat, and a million and one other things. Not necessarily by...
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Surviving the Downturn
At first I was afraid… I was petrified… Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side… I’m not talking about your lover, I’m talking about cash. Some of us this year are saying goodbye to...
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Is the oilfield life worth it?
Over the last 13 years of being an oilfield wife, when the going has gotten rough, I’ll stop and ask myself if this lifestyle is really worth it. It’s a life made up of sacrifices, hard work, and...
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Visiting the Patch
Sometimes everything aligns perfectly in the universe. Oilman will finally be on days and I will get a break in my work schedule. It is during these times that I pack an overnight bag and head up to...
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Sometimes When You’re Gone
It is funny, sometimes, what you learn about yourself when you’re alone for long periods of time. Like going to a movie by yourself, or having dinner in a restaurant solo. Neither of which I’ve tried...
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This, too, shall pass…Woes of an Oilfield Wife
I love my life. My Hot Oil Man and I have worked very hard to make a nice home and we have amazing children. The majority of the time we are happy, healthy, and content. I’m usually upbeat and always...
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4 Truths About an Oilfield Marriage
Want to put your marriage to the test? Have your husband join the oilfield. Nothing puts pressure on a relationship like weeks apart with long hours and little sleep. It can be a constant balance...
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