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An Oilfield Wife’s Breaking Point
I’m not sure where my breaking point is, but I might have already passed it. You know that saying, “When it rains, it pours?” Well that absolutely describes my life lately. Life can be hard. Being an...
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The Dreaded Oilfield “Work-Over”
I hate hate, hate, hate when my husband has to work an extra week. He’s staying longer this hitch, so his usual two weeks away at the North Slope will actually be three. The dreaded “work-over”. And...
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What You Need to Know (and your oilfield husband won’t tell you)
I was ready to go to bat for each of you, fellow oilfield wives. I had the hard-hitting questions ready and was eager to enlighten all of you with my new found information. With not a hint of...
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Rediscovering Him
I know I’m not the only wife who has felt like she has a stranger in her bed. After weeks of being away from one another, while it’s amazingly nice, there is an odd sense of awkwardness in the air. Ok,...
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Dear Oilfield…
Dear Oilfield, A lot of people hate you. You leave a bad taste in the mouth of the general public. To your employees you can be unpredictable – there’s always your ups and downs to deal with. Booms...
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The Other Side of the Oilfield
It has been just over two months since my husband left the oilfield to take a job with the railroad. It seems much longer than that. Much longer. Have our lives really changed that much in 9 short...
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Our New Normal
The truth hit me while in the middle of the cereal aisle at the grocery store. I’m not sure why the realization that my husband was coming home for an unknown period of time hit me there, but it did....
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What if He Falls in Love?
This question is, unfortunately, asked frequently. Women wondering if their hardworking man is cheating, ready to leave, or has fallen in love with someone else. Each situation different, but eerily...
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They Will Never Understand
“I spoke to Oilman yesterday morning,” the friend said, “he sounded really tired.” The friend was genuinely surprised that he sounded exhausted and beat down. I might have given that person an...
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I’m Not Ready for Him to Come Home Yet
Sometimes I’m not ready for my Hot Oil Man husband to come home. It’s not that I don’t miss him – because I do. I miss him every second that he’s gone. And it’s not that I don’t like having him here –...
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25 Things Oilfield Wives [Never Thought They’d] Say
There are articles floating all around the internet focusing on topics like “15 Things Moms of Boys Say”, or “10 Things Moms of Girls Want You To Know.” Enter the oilfield wives. Have you ever said...
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It’s an Ordinary Life
It’s an ordinary life. Maybe not to someone outside the oilfield, but to us it’s normal. Regular. Uneventful. What some people think is strange, unusual, or interesting is just our everyday life. Our...
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Those Damn Expectations
It is those damn expectations, they get me every time. Part of how I have kept myself sane being an oilfield wife is adjusting my expectations. I had to learn early on that things change in the...
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Raising Kids in the Oilfield
There’s a classic rock song that I can’t listen to without tearing up. Cat’s in the Cradle is one of my all-time favorites. It’s folksy and nostalgic and one of the best songs ever. I’ve always liked...
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Oilfield Worker Appreciation Day
I declare today, Oilfield Worker Appreciation Day. Write this day down. It’s a new thing and we are going to start it. #OilfieldWorkerAppreciation is happening on this very day folks. Have you ever...
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Start Living Your Life!
As an oilfield family, we’ve had our shares of hard times but by the grace of God, we’ve made it through them all. There have been rough patches when things looked bleak…but we never gave up because...
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That Time We *Almost* Got Divorced
It’s a time we don’t necessarily bring up at family gatherings, or giggle about when reminiscing about our past together (like that one time in an elevator in Vegas). Sure, we think about it, but we...
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Keeping Things Sexy, Even When We’re Apart
I’m standing in front of the mirror topless trying to take a sexy picture to send to my husband. I say “trying” because I’m taking a multitude of pictures and not happy with any of them. As I’m...
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Mom Standards
I am a horrible multi-tasker. Actually, I’m not horrible at it, I just hate it. I’d prefer to focus on one thing. All women, all moms, and especially oilfield wives are multi-taskers. We have to be,...
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Defining Yourself
“Hi! This is Ashley, Ryan’s wife.” “Good Morning! This is Ashley, Ani’s mom.” …I do this all the time: making phone calls, running into people at the grocery store I seldom see, introducing myself to...
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